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Interview: An Adoptive Mom to Adoptive Moms

by Dan Cruver Published Jul 26, 2012

Today’s interview is with an adoptive mom for adoptive (or pre-adoptive) moms. Shelly Roberts is the wife of her best friend, David, mom to three sons and two daughters, and serves with ABBA Fund in her spare time. Her family has a huge passion for the needs of orphans, both domestically and around the world. Shelly also encourages women and moms whenever she has the opportunity.

Shelly is also a breakout speaker at Together for Adoption Atlanta. If you’re attending the conference, make sure you sign-up for her breakout session:

Moments for Moms (Shelly Roberts, ABBA Fund) – Sharing from her own experiences, Shelly Roberts will walk you through lessons she has learned as a Mom/Wife on their family’s adoption journey. Shelly will share about how she learned to parent in new ways, keep your marriage strong, and deal with changed friendships (often your old friends – non-adoptive – no longer “get” you).

Shelly, tell us a little about your work in the adoption world

It starts in my own home and family, as we shepherd our 3 bio sons (college, HS senior and HS freshman) and our two precious adopted daughters (Naomi, 7 yr old spunky Texan and Maleah, our 5 yr old sweetie from Ethiopia).  Not only are we passionate about the needs of orphans, helping families overcome the financial barriers of adoption through our work with the ABBA Fund, but particularly my heartbeat is ministering to families once they come home.  There is a vast need for encouragement during that season.  So many things change.  What you once read in theory in a book, you are now living out in reality.  My passion is to come alongside families, especially adoptive moms, hear their hearts and encourage them by directing them back to the One who called them in the first place.

I know you love to serve adoptive moms, what unique challenges do you believe these moms face as mothers and as wives?

Even seasoned moms/wives can be really overwhelmed with the realities of their kids needs after adoption.  For those who have parented before, they often have to learn new ways to relate and respond to these amazing kids, esp when they come from hard places.  It’s different reading that in a book and living it out day after day.  Your marriage faces new stressors, your friendships often change, at times you can question if you truly have lost your mind.  There is GOOD NEWS, though.  NONE of this takes the Father by surprise!  His truth and promises still stand!  When moms learn to lean into their Father during this season it is amazing what He will do.

How do you plan to encourage them this September 14-15 at Together for Adoption Atlanta?

I am looking SO forward to connecting with moms at T4A in just a couple of short months.  A lot of what I’ll be sharing with them has come out of a special project the Lord has been directing.  SOON, “31 Nuggets of Hope for Moms who said YES to the Fatherless” will be going to print!  This has come out of years of walking alongside adoptive moms, hearing their needs, reminding them of their Father’s great love for them.  HE alone is the only real HOPE we have to offer these precious children He has brought into our lives.  He is OUR real Hope, as moms, as well.

You can find me on Facbebook and also at my blog Hearts Reaching Hearts.

Thanks for the opportunity, Dan.  Looking forward to serving with y’all in Atlanta!!

  • Cindy Hanning

    So excited for you to see your new devotional book for adoptive familes come to fruition! God is doing a mighty work as you speak to groups around the country encouraging women to walk in faith, not always by sight! Continuing to support you in prayer!

  • Penningsbeth

    “Intoxicated with unbroken success, we have become too self sufficient and proud to feel the necessity of redeeming and preserving grace.” Abraham Lincoln

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