Comments on: When Waiting is Painful

By: Carala

Carala — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 22:02:32 +0000

Thanks for this great perspective! Too many times we get caught up on our own journey, and don’t think about God’s journey to bring us all home to Him.

We’ve been on our journey to adoption for 2 years 10 months…I’ve had every emotion in the book, a thousand times over. But, what nobody will be able to take away from me is my unshakable faith in the greatest adoptive father…God! Without all the struggles of this 3 year journey, I would never have grown to love my Lord Jesus Christ the way I have. So, though tough, I am thankful for all I’ve learned and how I’ve grown in Christ.

Thanks again.
Carala from Canada

By: S.

S. — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 17:44:43 +0000

Good thoughts, though I’d like to see more about the child’s perspective. Imagine how much more painful it is for a child waiting for parents. Remember how slowly time passed even in a happy childhood? Imagine being in an impersonal or even cruel living situation waiting and waiting for a family.

I’ve heard people say, “Oh, I just can’t bear to think of my child unhappy or uncared for – I have to have a positive picture in my mind to be able to survive the adoption process.” To me, that seems so self-focused. I think this is part of the reason that cruel and corrupt orphanages flourish in many countries. Parents desperately want to believe that things are ok, and are determined to accept the rosy picture that orphanage officials paint fot them. No one questions them, and they continue unchecked.

Someone please write a book about the child’s perspective…painful though it may be.

By: Terri

Terri — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 00:26:00 +0000

We’ve adopted 10 times and have never gotten used to the waiting part. Lord bless all of you who wait patiently for that great day of meeting your new child/ren. While waiting, start a journal of prayers, stories, answers to requests, funding blessings, etc that you can share with your child when they grow up. Become an expert on your child’s country, health care challenges, language, traveling abroad, etc. Remember this waiting time is precious too. Your family will never be the same again once your new child arrives. There is some sweet memory making to enjoy now. Also, beware that your new child is a person not just a quiet face in a photo. There will be some challenges when they arrive especially if you’ve had a terribly long wait and too much time to romanticize on how PERFECT everything will be! Great Book: “After The Dream Comes True,” by M. Gardner, mother of 12. “Praise Be to the God and Father of Our Lord Jesus Christ who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with EVERY spiritual blessing in Christ!”

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By: Gidget Fenwick

Gidget Fenwick — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 12:05:41 +0000

Thanks for this wonderful adoption article. We are in the adoption process now and we are waiting for our referral now. We have been waiting one year. I will keep this article close by and I am gonna put this in my daughter’s baby book,God Bless

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By: Stephen & Dottie

Stephen & Dottie — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 23:40:51 +0000

Thanks for these God-centered comments about a very real and difficult part of adoption. We need a reminder that God is not in a hurry, even though we often are. In our minds the “goal” is that day when we will finally hold our child and be parents. But in God’s plan, this may be only a piece of the great work that He is doing in our lives. Perhaps we should always be asking, “How is God teaching/sanctifying/growing/using us right now? How can we glorify Him as we wait?”

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By: Cindy

Cindy — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 15:56:19 +0000

Nine months of paperwork. Ten months of waiting and no end in sight.
When I’m getting a little down, sometimes I take a few minutes to listen to Chris Rice’s song “Missin’ You” (Out Past the Edges – track 10 – it’s an oldie). It makes me think of my daughter somewhere in El Salvador and it makes me think even more of my awesome God and how much He must long for us to be with Him. If I can want to be with Him this much in my imperfect love, how much more must he want to be with us in His perfect love.
Of the many pictures of adoption, one of the most beautiful is how much we can love someone whom we have never even seen a picture of and have no idea when we’ll meet. While we wait for God’s plan, I’ll be missing both my daughter and my God.
Thanks Dan!

By: Brittnie Wilbanks

Brittnie Wilbanks — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 15:17:18 +0000

Thanks Dan! What a wonderful post. The waiting has begun for us and I needed to have that perspective at the beginning of our wait. Will probably need to read it several more times throughout this process!!

Blessings,
Brittnie